Blended & Redeemed

The Go-To Field Guide for the Modern Stepfamily is here.

Blended families are becoming more and more common, but that doesn’t make them any less complicated. Whether you’re just starting out on your step-parenting journey or you’ve been at it for years, this book is here to offer valuable insights and guidance from authors who have been through all the ups and downs personally.

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The divorce rate for blended families is 70 percent. But when you do it God’s way, you have a 100% chance of success!

In Blended and Redeemed, blended family experts, coaches, and therapists Scott and Vanessa Martindale go where few dare to venture—into the minefield of today’s blended families. You will learn how to:

Defend your new marriage from old wounds and the enemy’s schemes
Turn strangers into siblings through intentional and intelligent blending
Work and communicate effectively with your ex-spouse as co-parents
Navigate the fiery furnace of custody litigation
Bring glory to God and inform the church about your messy and beautifully unique blended family

From the Authors

“This book did not come without a fight, and the journey to get here required much sacrifice in our personal lives and in the lives of others. We are grateful for the many people who lifted us up in this season—our Aarons in the times we were tired and weary. We are so blessed by each and every one of you.”

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Book Reviews

“Blended and Redeemed stands alone as the most powerful and practical resource for blended families we’ve ever encountered.This book will entertain you, inspire you, and equip you with new tools to help you build a stronger faith, family, and marriage. Every married couple could benefit from reading this book!”

Dave & Ashley Willis

Bestselling Authors and Hosts of The Naked Marriage Podcast

“Drawing upon their own personal stories, the Martindales guide you toward much-needed wisdom regarding this prickly topic. So many have experienced blended families, yet so few have spoken about it with such practicality. If you’re searching for ways to find God inside your patchwork circumstances, consider carefully what this marvelous book presents.”

Dr. Les Carter

Psychotherapist of 40 years, Author, Creator and Host of Surviving Narcissism

“This book is a must-read for any blended family. The inspiring stories and the practical step-by-step field guide for your modern stepfamily will give you the tools you need to further establish your family. Our God is a redeeming God. Open this book and discover the redemptive story for your family too.”

Dr. Jon Chasteen

President, The King’s University Lead Pastor, Victory Church

“Picking up and reading this book was a breath of fresh air, knowing it was written for someone like me, a blended family. With this book, you don’t just receive surface-level solutions but deep insight and Godly wisdom so that you can experience true transformation. From its practical conversations and
support in topics unique to blended families, strong biblical teaching to the unwavering petition to the church to better understand
and support families like ours, this book is long overdue.”

Rachel G. Scott

Host of Taking the Leap Podcast

“Scott and Vanessa have fought the battles every blended family hopes to evade. Taken from what they have braved through, this book reveals to you honest truth and models how to establish safety and connectedness inside your family. They have done the groundwork to equip you to conquer what your family may face. Mixed families are not a second class but a beautiful BLEND of what God has brought together for His kingdom.”

Jason Vallotton

Author of Winning the War Within

“Scott and Vanessa provide a compassionate, gospel-informed perspective on marriages to help break the cycle of divorce and help families THRIVE and UNIFY. This book is full of spiritual, emotional, and practical guidance on navigating families coming together through marriage. Every church needs this book in its resource library!”

Amy Ford

Author, President of Embrace Grace

The Martindales

Scott, a Licensed Professional Counselor for more than 15 years, has helped couples, marriages, and families on their journey through life’s challenges. Vanessa, a registered nurse, is pursuing a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy at The King’s University. They have been married over 8 years and together founded Blended Kingdom Families—a ministry that is committed to breaking the generational cycle of divorce, equipping marriages, and educating blended families with resources and practical skills through the truth of God’s word. Scott and Vanessa are a blended family with four sons and four golden retrievers and live in the Dallas-Fort Worth Metroplex.